Umbulelo unempembelelo entle kwindlela esiziphethe ngayo – masinyaniseke ngakumbi, sandise ukuzeyisa kwethu, siphucule ukusebenza kakuhle kwethu kunye nobudlelwane bosapho.

Ke ngoko, unokucinga ukuba ndicinga ukuba i-Thanksgiving yenye yezona ntsuku zibalulekileyo zonyaka.Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba izibonelelo zokubulela zandiswa

ngosuku oluthile, imele ibe yiholide yesizwe emiselwe ngokukhethekileyo ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo ezinjalo.

Kodwa ukunyaniseka, ukubulela yinkcitho kwi-Thanksgiving.Ungandivi kakubi: Ndiyasithanda isingqisho kunye nesithethe saloo mini njengaye wonke umntu.

Zizinto nje ezenza uMbulelo ube mnandi kakhulu-inkampani yezalamane kunye nabahlobo, ixesha elingenamsebenzi, kwaye ukonwabela i-turkey ekhethekileyo.

isidlo - oko kwenza uMbulelo ungabi yimfuneko.

Enye yeenjongo ezingundoqo zombulelo kukusinceda ukuba sibe nobudlelwane obuluqilima nabanye.Uphando lwengqondo kaSara Algoe lubonisa ukuba xa sinombulelo

ekucingeni kwabanye, sicinga ukuba banokufaneleka ngakumbi ukuqonda.Umbulelo usikhuthaza ukuba sithathe inyathelo lokuqala ekwakheni ubudlelwane

nabasemzini.Nje ukuba sibazi ngcono abanye, umbulelo oqhubekayo uya kuluqinisa unxibelelwano lwethu nabo.Ukuba nombulelo ngoncedo lwabanye kananjalo

kusenza sizimisele ngakumbi ukunika uncedo kubantu esingabaziyo - isazi ngengqondo uMonica Bartlett wafumanisa le nto - eyenza abanye bafune

ukusazi.

Kodwa xa sihleli malunga netafile yokubulela kunye nezalamane kunye nabahlobo, ngokuqhelekileyo asifuni ngabom abanye kwaye siseke ubudlelwane obutsha.

Ngale mini, besikunye nabantu esibathandayo.

Ukucacisa, anditsho ukuba akufanelekanga ukuthatha ixesha lokubonisa nokuvakalisa uxabiso ngezinto ezintle zobomi.Ngokuqinisekileyo sisenzo esihle esi.

Kodwa ngokwembono yesayensi - ubukho beemvakalelo buya kukhuthaza izigqibo zethu kunye nokuziphatha kwethu ukuphuhlisa kwicala elithile - izibonelelo.

umbulelo udla ngokungabi namsebenzi ngosuku avakaliswa ngawo kakhulu.

Nanku omnye umzekelo.Uphando lwam lwaselabhoratri lubonisa ukuba umbulelo uyanceda ukunyaniseka.Xa oogxa bam kunye nam sacela abantu ukuba bachaze ukuba ngaba

Ingqekembe abayiphosa ngasese yayintle okanye imbi (indlela entle abaya kufumana ngayo imali eninzi), abo baye baba nombulelo (ngokubala ulonwabo lwabo)

babenesiqingatha kuphela amathuba okukopa njengabanye.Siyazi ukuba ngubani oqhathileyo kuba ingqekembe yenzelwe ukujongana

Umbulelo usenza sibe nesisa ngakumbi: kuvavanyo lwethu, xa abantu benethuba lokwabelana ngemali nabantu abangabaziyo, sifumanise ukuba abo

abanombulelo baya kwabelana nge-12% ngaphezulu kumndilili.

NgoMhla woMbulelo, nangona kunjalo, ukukopela kunye nokubamba akudli ngokuba zizono zethu.(Ngaphandle kokuba ubala ukuba ndidle kakhulu kwi-fillers edumileyo ka-Anti Donna.)

Ukuzilawula nako kunokuphuculwa ngokubulela.Mna nabalingane bam siye safumanisa ukuba abantu abanombulelo abafane bazenzele imali ngokungxama

ukhetho - bazimisele ngakumbi ukuba nomonde ngembuyekezo yotyalo-mali kwixesha elizayo, kunokuba banqwenele inzuzo encinci.Oku kuzithiba kuyasebenza nasekutyeni:

njengoko iziphumo zesazi ngengqondo uSonja Lyubomirsky noogxa bakhe zibonisa, abantu abanombulelo badla ngokuxhathisa ukutya okungenampilo.

Kodwa kwiThanksgiving, ukuzeyisa ngokuqinisekileyo akuyonjongo.Akukho mntu kufuneka azikhumbuze ukonga imali eninzi kwiakhawunti yakhe yomhlalaphantsi;Iibhanki

zivaliwe.Ngaphandle koko, ukuba andikwazi ukutya ipayi yethanga ka-Amy ngoMhla wokuBulela, ndiza kulinda nini?

Umbulelo usenza sisebenze ngakumbi.Iingcali zengqondo uAdam Grant noFrancesca Gino bafumanisa ukuba xa abaphathi bavakalisa umbulelo ngomsebenzi onzima

yabasebenzi kwisebe lezemali, iinzame zabo ezisebenzayo ziya kwanda ngequbuliso ngama-33%.Ukuvakalisa umbulelo ngakumbi e-ofisini nako ngokusondeleyo

ezinxulumene nokwaneliseka komsebenzi ophezulu kunye nolonwabo.

Kwakhona, wonke umbulelo mkhulu.Kodwa ngaphandle kokuba lishishini lenkonzo, awukwazi ukusebenza kwi-Thanksgiving.

Ndifuna ukubonisa enye inzuzo yokubulela: inokunciphisa ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo.Uphando lwengqondo yengqondo uNathaniel Lambert lubonisa ukuba ngaphezulu

ukubulela akuyi kuphucula nje ukwaneliseka kwabantu ngobomi, kodwa kuya kunciphisa umnqweno wabo wokuthenga izinto.Oku kufunyanisiweyo kuyahambelana nophando

wesazi ngengqondo uThomas Gilovich, obonisa ukuba abantu batyekele ekubeni nombulelo ngakumbi ngexesha abalichitha nabanye kunezipho ezibizayo.

Kodwa kwi-Thanksgiving, ukuphepha ukuthenga ngokungxamisekileyo akusoloko kuyingxaki enkulu.(Kodwa uLwesihlanu omnyama ngosuku olulandelayo ngomnye umcimbi.)

Ke ngoko, xa wena kunye nabo ubathandayo nihlangana ngoMhla wokuBulela kulo nyaka, uya kufumanisa ukuba uvuyo lwale mini - ukutya okumnandi, usapho.

kunye nabahlobo, uxolo lwengqondo - kulula ukufikelela kuyo.Kufuneka sidibane ngoLwesine wesine kuNovemba ukuze sithuthuzelane kwaye siphumle.

Kodwa kwezinye iintsuku ezingama-364 zonyaka-iintsuku apho unokuziva ulilolo, uxinezelekile emsebenzini, ubhidekile kukukopela okanye into encinci, uyeka ukuhlakulela umbulelo.

iya kwenza umahluko omkhulu.Ukubulela kusenokungabi lixesha lokubulela, kodwa ukubulela ngezinye iintsuku kunokukunceda uqinisekise ukuba unokufumana.

zininzi izinto onokuzibulela kwixesha elizayo.